Parents.

In this life, the bond between a child and each parent is not always the same. Neither in depth nor in expression. 

A son might not call his father for months or even years, yet still love him. It doesn’t mean the love is dead, it’s just unspoken. But that same son may speak to his mother every few days, because the nature of his bond with her is different. Now reverse the situation, and you’ll find that a daughter may go quiet on her mother for weeks but will call the father regularly. Again, it’s about relationship dynamics, not absence of love. 

This is a subtle reminder that a child’s obligation to their parent is never as automatic as culture makes it seem, it is often shaped by the strength of the relationship, and not just the bloodline. 

Let’s be honest: many parents in our society expect too much simply because they are parents. But relationship doesn’t work like that. Even friendships fade when there's no genuine connection or effort. So why do we think parenting should be any different? 

Ask yourself: would you expect a friend you only talk to twice a year to go to war with you? 

And if they do, shouldn't it be termed "being generous?" 

In the same way, when your child makes a sacrifice for you, it may not be because you’re his, or her parent. It may simply be because the child is kind-hearted enough to do the same for a stranger. 

This is why parents must stop leaning on entitlement and start leaning into relationship. Because your child is not just your child, but an evolving person. Who  will one day develop own values, beliefs, ideologies, and convictions—many of which may conflict with yours. 

When that day comes, the real test won’t be whether you are the father or mother, it will be the strength of your relationship. 

So dear parent, invest in the bond, not the title. Love unconditionally, connect deeply, and most of all, reduce your expectations to the level of the relationship you actually have—not the one you think you deserve. 

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